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Thursday, September 12, 2013

Cancer? Really??

I just had a Deaf adult on a group for parents (who I had blocked because she has a HUGE problem with me) say that she hopes I get cancer someday so that I can "see what Deaf people feel". She says she will never be silenced because of my cruelty to Deaf children....

This is supposed to be a community that I want my child in? Every day I am fighting with my professors, saying that I believe ASL is beneficial to deaf kids, that deaf kids with CIs have speech, language and audition equal to deaf kids of hearing parents, that CIs aren't always the right choice for all deaf kids, and that kids who start with ASL can have outcomes equally good as those who are oral only, and what do I get in return? Cancer wished upon me...

6 comments:

EllenF said...

My brother in law died two days ago from cancer. I don't think anyone should wish it upon another person, no matter what. I feel sorry for the person who has so much bitterness in thei life- that IS something that will eat you up. Your blog was one of the first I found when my son was born deaf, and your journey was informational. I have to say the hardcore anti-CI anti-oral comments almost scared me away from introducing my son to the deaf community, so those people are kind of shooting themselves in the foot. CI kids can hear and use ASL, CODAs do, right? Anyway, thanks for your blog, bummer about the negativity. -Ellen, mom to Peter (2 Neptunes!, 16 months) peterstale.blogspot.com

bioniclissa said...

Cancer is not something that no-one should wish upon another person. NOBODY should go through Cancer. I lost my Dad when I was 15 and it is hell. I don't get people who hate parents who give CI's to their kids and who may also sign. I grew up oral in a deaf school and went on to have a CI at 10.

melissa, 23 years old. a deaf adult with a cochlear implant and hearing aid. deafened in NICU due to prematurity and medication.

http://bioniclissa.blogspot.co.uk/

kate blue said...

you have to think it had nothing to do with you...that person has issues and obviously low self-esteem..hinging behind the power of the internet is pretty dang sad...don't let somebody who knows nothing about you say a word!

Laurie said...

I totally understand your comment, "and this is a community I would want my child in?" You must do what you feel is best for your child and family. In taking ASL classes at a deaf community center, I witnessed the rigidness and disdain for the hearing /CI community. I did not mention that my grandson would soon be receiving a cochlear implant. I certainly expected an attitude of inclusiveness, but that is not what I experienced. I feel that learning ASL will never be a detriment for anyone in my family. I am trying to be forgiving toward those that are unforgiving.

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Deaf centerist said...

No one should wish cancer upon you and I'm sorry that that happened; it's terrible. But saying "this is a community I'm supposed to want my kid in" is employing the same stereotypes and generalizations that this misinformed (and mean) person is using to understand you and other hearing people.
Not all Deaf people wish cancer upon you (which, of course, you know; you are an intelligent being). So let's not make it out like the NAD put out some kind of cancer warrant on your head. There are mean, bigoted people on both sides of the line, and all of them are wrong, mean and bigoted to be treating people in this way. But if you choose the meanest, most bigoted, stupidest one to represent the Deaf community, expect that the other side will do the same...